Grief is something I’ve observed very closely over the last few months. It’s one of those things you will never truly understand until you have experienced it. As most of you know, unfortunately I lost my father a few months ago. Now that I was on the receiving end of the condolence messages, it made me understand things in a different way. I realised the small mistakes I made in the past with the one’s who were grieving at the time as I just didn’t get it back then. So today I’m sharing the 3 most important things I learnt about grieving and hope it helps you understand it better as well.
Be Considerate: Most people are confused about what to say or do when they visit someone for condolence. As a result, they end up saying the most cringe-worthy things. Trust me, it is better to stay quiet rather than say something you might regret later. Instead, why not share a happy memory you have of the lost one that will make the family smile? It doesn’t always have to be tear-shedding stories. Focus on the happy memories.
Don’t be too inquisitive: Yes, we are all curious by nature and want to know all the details about what, when, where and how. But please give it time before your curiosity can be put to rest. Grieving is an over-whelmingly personal experience. Going through the same event over and over again can be mentally exhausting for those grieving.
Be Supportive: Grieving involves good days and terrible days. You can be having a perfectly normal day and all of a sudden something triggers and grief hits you when you least expect it. It’s the worst feeling in the world. While it is good to be strong, it is equally important to address your emotions when you hit that all-time low. Please don’t push the person concerned to snap out of this mood immediately, but instead offer them your emotional support on such days. Your attitude plays an important role in how they bounce back the following day.
When you experience the loss of a loved one then you understand the pain someone else goes through and stay by their side. Therefore, if you are someone who is also experiencing grief, then rest assured I’m always here for you if you ever need to talk. Repeat after me, it’s going to be ok …
Until the next post, “I’ll try to keep it Strictly Lighthearted!“